I've had quite a while (two years) to ruminate on this novel. While the phrasing of the prose might not be fresh, the lessons about love and marriage still are.
The novel begins with the infamous line, "It is a truth universally acknowledged, that a single man in possession of a good fortune, must be in want of a wife" (2). The amount of snark and sarcasm that Jane Austen manages to imbue in that line is legendary. But Austen has a base of truth in this statement. In Nineteenth-century England, a man, especially a wealthy one, was supposed to marry a woman of good virtue and character (and preferably a decent sized dowry) and produce heirs to continue on the family name and fortune. Getting married was not only the next step in a young person's life, it was their duty. Therefore, not all marriages were the best matches. Many were made for financial reasons, while others were marriages of passion. But with the successful couples in the novel, Austen argues that good marriages are based in mutual respect and grow stronger with time.
One of the first marriages we see in the novel is not a particuarlly successful one. Mr. and Mrs. Bennett married when they were young because Mr. Bennet fell for Mrs. Bennet's beauty. The novel states, "Her [Elizabeth's] father, captivated by youth and beauty, and that appearance of good humour with youth and beauty generally give, had married a woman whose weak understanding and illiberal mind had very early in their marriage put an end to all real affection for her. Respect, esteem, and confidence had vanished for ever; and all his views of domestic happiness were overthrown". This is an example of an unequal marriage. Mrs. Bennet is trite while Mr. Bennet is contemplative. They raise five daughters, only two of which make successful matches during the book, and this is mostly due to their own initiative and intelligence.
Lydia was not one of the daughters that made a good match. She elopes with George Wickham. Originally, they just run away together. But, Darcy finds them and forces Wickham to make an honest woman out of her. Lydia is fated to have the same type of marriage that her parents had, a loveless one based on initial attraction. While Wickham is not quiet like Mr. Bennet, his pairing with Lydia is not based in mutual love and respect. Lydia just wanted to get married for the sake of getting married. Elizabeth characterizes her as "untamed, unabashed, wild, noisy, and fearless". Granted, Lydia is fifteen at the start of the novel and refuses to follow anyone's example except her mother's. But, that does not excuse her rash behavior and that Darcy cleans up the mess she makes for the entire Bennet family.
While Lydia follows the example of her mother, Jane tries to follow Elizabeth's advice. While that advice ends up almost ruining Jane and Bingley's relationship, they still end up happily coupled in the end. Elizabeth tells Jane, "Indeed, Jane, you ought to believe me. No one who has ever seen you together can doubt his affection. Miss Bingley, I am sure, cannot. She is not such a simpleton. Could she have seen half as much love in Mr. Darcy for herself, she would have ordered her wedding clothes. But the case is this: We are not rich enough or grand enough for them". This raises another important theme in the novel: class and society. While Jane and Bingley possess one of the best relationships in the novel, they undergo the trial of a judgmental society. Bingley is significantly wealthier than the Bennet family and society believes that Jane only wants to marry him for his money and status. But, Jane is innocent and pure of heart. She wants to marry Bingely because she loves and respects him. Austen uses this marriage to demonstrate the power of love over soceity and its expectations. The union is one of the two good marriages made by Bennet sisters. But it is the lesser of the two because there is not an additional component of mental challenge between the pair.
Finally, the most famous marriage, and arguably the best one, is that between Elizabeth and Darcy. This is the relationship that the book is centered around. At the start of the novel, Elizabeth is kind to Darcy, but he snubs her and therefore earns her disdain. This begins a verbal match between the two that lasts the majority of the novel. They argue about what makes an ideal woman, about what makes an ideal marriage, and about how society treats women. The novel gains it's title because of Elizabeth and Darcy's pride and their prejudice towards one another. Over halfway through the novel, Darcy realizes his feelings for Elizabeth and proposes to her. But, he does not take her feelings into account. Elizabeth notes, "He concluded with representing to her the strength of that attachment, which, in spite of all his endeavours, he had found impossible to conquer; and with expressing his hope that it would now be rewarded by her acceptance of his hand. As he said this, she could easily see that he had no doubt of a favourable answer. He spoke of apprehension and anxiety, but his countenance expressed real security". Darcy believes that the money and security he will bring to Elizabeth's family is reason enough for their union and that his affection for her is just an added bonus. But, he does not even consider that Elizabeth will follow her own heart instead of following his money. This rejection forces Darcy to reconsider the idea behind his love. Later in the novel, he demonstrates his love for her by saving the Bennet family from ruin, due to Lydia's elopement. By the end of the novel, both Elizabeth and Darcy have reconciled their pride and prejudice towards each other, which leads to a happy and successful marriage. Because of their mutual respect towards one another and the love that grows throughout the novel and beyond, Elizabeth and Darcy have the example of the best marriage in the novel.
While this book was published over 200 years ago (1813), it's themes are still relevant today. Many young people get married due to a relationship founded in passion and immediate attraction. That's why there are drive-through wedding chapels in Vegas. But there are also marriages like that between Elizabeth and Darcy, marriages that are based on mutual respect and affection for one another. Due to its transcendence of time, the novel is easily adapted today. While there have been several period versions (the 1995 PBS version staring Colin Firth and the 2005 movie version with Keira Knigtley), the most interesting version to me is the Lizzie Bennet Diaries by Pemberley Digital. This series of webisodes performed in a vlog style updates the story into modern times. Lizzie is a mass communications grad student working on her thesis project and Darcy is the head of a multimedia company. Jane is a fashion designer and Bing Lee is a med student. Wickham is a swim coach who makes a sex tape with Lydia and is forced to remove it because Darcy bought out the company. This modern adaptation stars a fantastic cast and they won an Emmy for their ground-breaking trans-media storytelling. Instead of just uploading vlogs, the characters all had Twitter accounts with real time interaction and some characters had additional YouTube channels where they uploaded their own vlogs. This gave a credibility to the characters that made them seem like real people, living their own lives. It brought they story to life in an interesting and unique manner that has continued in Pemberley's other projects, like Emma Approved and Frankenstein, MD.